# RE: Guestbook 2015Rob 2015-01-02 09:42
I wish everybody that their dreams for 2015 come out, happy new year
# have new yearRE 2015-01-02 16:14
hi rob ,the new version is great .happy new years and hope everything goes well with you and everybody .best regards
# 想阿翁wongzipen 2016-11-07 14:27
阿翁!希望你永远会开心~即使你离开我们了!我们也会永远像你Quoting RE:
hi rob ,the new version is great .happy new years and hope everything goes well with you and everybody .best regards
# Happy New YearChak湛山子 2015-01-02 17:10
Rob , Happy New Year 2015 !
# HaPPy New YEAR 2015!Josephine Chan 2015-01-27 02:38
Thank you Rob for updating the site...nice colour choice. Sending a happy belated New Year Wish...all the best to you and your family. Health, love, joy and peace! Josephine
# RE: Guestbook 2015Yan 2015-01-31 22:26
I was watching the series again, after so many years, she is still the best. Thank you for sharing.. And even though so many years past, still sorry for your loss.
# RE: Guestbook 2015Yan 2015-02-03 06:47
Hi, rob, I keep thinking about your story. I have one more question. Do you know the reason why Barbara was buried in Cambridge instead of Hinston? Is it possible that her mother realized that Cambridge was the place for her love? Would it possible that Barbara called her mother before suicide?
# RE: Guestbook 2015Rob 2015-02-03 11:26
I think that there was no space at the graveyard in Histon. Being buried in Cambridge was just a practical solution. I don't think she called her mother, she didn't share her problems with her mother.
# RE: Guestbook 2015Yan 2015-02-03 13:44
You seem to be really brought up by "Dutch Parenting". I mean very open minded family atmosphere. Just now as a father of 3 girls, what will you do if you are confronted with the situation that Barbara's mother had? I mean if your girl went out with boys that you don't really appreciate? (I guess the chance is low, since I imagine you are open minded as well). but still a question that we might could learn more from your answer.
# RE: Guestbook 2015Rob 2015-02-03 23:12
Like most modern parents we brought up our daughters that they are independent and make their own choices. In other words that they follow their heart. Even if they make wrong choices from my point of view. If they fall in love with "bad" guys, they have to find out the consequences themselves and learn from it (I hope). Whatever choices they make, as a parent I will support them.
# RE: Guestbook 2015Yan 2015-02-04 06:30
Dank U wel voor jouw antwoord. Wen you found out the first time Barbara had the suicide tendancy, except being astonished, did you seek advice from your parents? Or share with them your astonishment?
# RE: Guestbook 2015Rob 2015-02-04 21:00
Je kan dus ook Nederlands! I was suprised as I never saw it coming. But I was also naïve and I just believed Barbara when she told me that everything would be ok. My parents knew about it, but never adviced me, I never asked them.
# RE: Guestbook 2015Yan 2015-02-04 10:11
Rob, probably an irrelevant topic. But I would also like to share with you a book that I read 3 years ago. Iris Chang, who was a famous historian wrote the book "Rape of Nanking", committed suicide 10 years ago aged 35. Her mother published 3 years ago a memoir about her and gave more details about her daughter's suicide. As you are writing the book (not about Barbara, but more about the handling of suicide problem), I recommend this book to you.
# RE: Guestbook 2015Rob 2015-02-04 21:06
Thank you, I have a look at it. Suicide is obviously a theme in my book. To get some background information I read the books "The bell jar"by Sylvia Plath and "the virgin suicides" by Jeffrey Eugenides. I also had several interviews with a Chinese woman who survived two suicide attemps.
# RE: Guestbook 2015Yan 2015-02-05 07:04
Ik heb lang geladen ook een film gezien van deze thema. Toen vindt ik saai, dus heb ik de naam kwijt. Ik zal dat terugvinden.
# RE: Guestbook 2015Rob 2015-03-13 09:01
I finished reading the book about Iris Chang. The book is absorbing to read. It tells a lot about what kind of person Iris was but it says very little about her emotional state and why she committed suicide. Which is a pity as that would make her story much more valuable.
# RE: Guestbook 2015 2015-02-24 18:00
I just want to say thank you
# thank youJOAN 2015-03-12 09:53
thank you very much! i come from chinese.
# She is so beautifulJessica 2015-03-12 15:50
Hi Rob,
Thanks for doing that. I have few questions;
Was Barbara your first girlfriend? If you can have the choice again, would you marry her and kept her in England? Have you dreamed about her all these years? Thanks. J
# RE: She is so beautifulRob 2015-03-13 08:50
No she was not my first girlfriend.
I would have married her if she had joined me in Holland. I wasn't going to stay in England for her.
I thought about her a lot, but I have not dreamed about her.
# RE: Guestbook 2015tommy edwards 2015-03-13 08:50
Thank you for sharing!!!
# RE: Guestbook 2015blingbling 2015-03-16 00:36
hi rob, I've known that BY had history of suicide twice in England, one time she did it bcos she thought you pay less attention to her right? how do you know that, did she tell you?
# RE: Guestbook 2015Rob 2015-03-19 12:57
I think you misunderstood the situation. Her problems were much more complex than just the one single cause you mentioned here.
# RE: Guestbook 2015blingbling 2015-03-24 12:32
so can you tell me the reason why she attempted suicide, once is due to her mother prevented the relationship, so how abt the second time?
# RE: Guestbook 2015Rob 2015-03-24 14:37
She felt lonely, unappreciated and unwanted. She also had an enormous argument with her mother a few days before.
# GiangGiang 2015-04-13 21:52
I'm watching The Foundation rt now and again. And shes so beautiful. Talents, skills, and beautiful.
# RE: Guestbook 2015Giang 2015-04-23 21:14
Hi Rob,
Check this out. I just coincidentally came across it.
Thought u might want to read this.

I hope this will not proceed on though bc its a stupid
And disrespectful idea.
# RE: Guestbook 2015Lo 2015-04-25 02:04
It’s called of right after the announcement, the related people had apologize as many people get outrageous. Hope there is no more such stupid idea.
# RE: Guestbook 2015Giang 2015-04-25 07:38
Good .
# RE: Guestbook 2015ksu 2015-04-27 20:43
One Youtube video says she took her life due to her new career and ups and downs of her popularity in the entertainment industry. It also says that they found a slit on the forehead and a puncture mark on the arm. It is not from a bad relationship.
# happy birthdaycheuk hokkai 2015-05-06 19:12
呀翁 生日快樂!!happy birthday! 祝你永遠快樂。
# happy birthdaycheuk hokkai 2015-05-06 19:14
happy birthday to you!
# Happy Birthday to Barbara!Lucky_wawa 2015-05-07 17:24
Barbara is always in my heart!
# Barbara's 30th AnniversaryWKS 2015-05-13 16:08
Gone but not forgotten. Rob, thanks for the beautiful memories you have given me.
# In loving memory of Barbara YungAh Róng - 阿蓉 2015-05-14 06:34
The life of the dead is placed in the memory of the living.
- Marcus Tullius Cicero -

Thanks for your beautiful memories with Barbara. That makes me being touched.
# RE: Guestbook 2015Lee 2015-05-14 12:20
Hope see you another side Barbara
# RE: Guestbook 2015Kitty Wong 2015-05-14 14:32
Barbara you are my Idol forever. I really miss you. Thank you bring me a lot of memories
# Mrs. WongAnonymous Wong 2015-05-20 04:47
ROB. I appreciate your openess.
Like your love for Barbara & vice versa (some couples are NOT destined for each other. Chinese saying "yau yun mow fun"

ANOTHER very nice movie (different actor/actress)
# Mrs. WongAnonymous Wong 2015-05-20 04:49
ROB. I know WESTERNERS allow their kids to follow their hearts. But if the kid make serious/irrevocable mistakes, it may RUIN their life.

Isn't it painful as parent to see your KIDs making severe mistakes?

In CHINESE culture, we "steer" & "encourage" our kids to take the right path. Ie. APPLYING WISDOM in their daily life.
# Mrs. WongAnonymous Wong 2015-05-20 04:50
ROB.. I do admire your "dedication" in creating this website for all to enjoy. GOD BLESS U...
# RE: Guestbook 2015半音阶 2015-05-21 14:34
# RE: Guestbook 2015DUTCHCHINESE 2015-05-22 09:58
It's been already 30 years ago that Barbara had left us. Dad told us about her sudden, shocking death at the time. RIP Barbara.
# RE: Guestbook 2015Manuel 2015-06-01 11:48
# RE: Guestbook 2015Manuel 2015-06-08 03:16
Quoting Manuel:

# 永远怀念我们的蓉儿Ai-Jun Cai 2015-06-08 23:05
# RE: 永远怀念我们的蓉儿Jonatan 2017-02-11 20:12
I am just wondering why you two broke up? Watch her TV serie again and sorry for the ending.
# Barbara the LegendLouis.C.Z 2015-07-16 07:25
I haven't kown much about barbara young until I listen to the song from The legend of Condor Hero recently and started noticing her. I was born in 1988, when I was old enough to watch TV,her story was a little bit far from my age... After reading and watching so much reports about her life and death , I felt extremely sad for her dying so young! and I saw so much of myself in her personality. sensitive, extreme, sacrifice to love..what life will be like if she insisted on robert? will robert not leave her if he knew how reassuringly and miserably she lived? As a girl I guess she loved robert more and I assume she thought a lot about the time spending with robert. after 30 years of her death, robert chose a way to remember her which is very touching ! I wish god could give her a chance to build a family like all the other people do..
# MrsCecilia Ng 2015-07-24 06:57
# Nothing to DoAs E-mail 2015-09-04 11:51
Would you know who Yung's biological father is?
# RE: Guestbook 2015Rob 2015-09-04 22:47
No I don't, Barbara didn't either. He left Barbara's mother when Barbara was still a baby. I suppose he is called mister Yung.
# Barbara Yung and Leslie Cheungeshl 2015-09-17 15:38
I found a clip on youtube of Barbara Yung worked with Leslie Cheung to introduce one of his famous song.
# Barbara Yung and Leslie Cheungeshl 2015-09-17 15:39
# RE: Guestbook 2015eshl 2015-09-17 15:50
# Thanks for sharing!Tom Zh 2015-12-06 04:50
I can really tell that you did a lot of work by posting pictures and bibliographies onto the website. And thanks for sharing all these so that we can have a better and thorough understanding about Barbara.
# RE: Guestbook 2015钟爱翁美玲 2016-01-10 01:57
I hope Barbara the last of the last sentence is addressed to you
I can see you Barbara
Love you very much
# like your love storymaygi 2016-01-11 01:03
You can put the photos preserved, prove that you are very cherish this feeling. Like your love story and support of your fans.
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and 2016Angel 2016-02-17 03:56
I have been voraciously reading your blog the entire day. Your memoir of your love with her is so moving and touching that I could not help crying from time to time. Thank you for sharing the story with us.
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and 2016Angel 2016-02-17 03:58
Thank you for sharing this moving story of your love. It made me cry.
# 永远的阿翁Tanya 2016-02-24 16:13
# ThanksFrank 2016-03-08 00:25
Thanks for creating this site for the most beautiful actress ever on this earth. I love all the photos and stories.
# Thanks for your websiteWeiwei 2016-03-15 15:59
Thanks for giving me a chance to read all stories about Barbara and you,thanks for everything you do.
Have a nice day.
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and 2016wolfliu 2016-04-14 14:05
小时候的梦,最为完美的妻子,黄蓉。直到成人还继续着对我的影响。愿你在天堂快乐永享。THANK YOU,Rob。
# Barbara she is my favourite actressNattaya 2016-05-06 00:14
I known Barbara since I am little in Thailand most of her fan still remember her. Since I was little girl I collected lots of her photos.And now I am living in Uk I want to visit her at cemetery in Cambridge but can you direct me to the point please.
# RE: Barbara she is my favourite actressRob R 2016-05-06 15:33
Hello Nattaya, on this page you find the information about Barbara's grave (

I will be visiting it myself coming june
# Happy Birthday Barbara Yung!eshl 2016-05-06 17:56
Today in Asia timezone is Barbara Yung birthday 7 May 1959. Happy Birthday to Barbara Yung!
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and 2016Lo 2016-05-08 23:52
Hello Rob,
Have you seen this:

# RE: Guestbook 2015 and 2016Rob R 2016-05-09 07:24
Yes I have and I already had contact with Andrew. He told me that he and Barbara's mother found my website very nice.
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and 2016Dan Yan 2016-05-10 11:13
Hi Rob,
Maybe you can upload some current pictures of your own. There are only the pictures of your daughters and the scenery of the place where you live.
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and 2016Rob R 2016-05-10 15:16
I don't want my face in the media. And anyway I am not much to look at, my daughters look much better :lol:
# TraumaticKS Shum 2016-05-25 10:56
Despite 31 years have gone by since Barbara left us, I am still melancholy about her death. Just in case any of you are not aware, "Legend of the Condor Heroes" (射鵰英雄傳) series are aired on NOW Channel 809 these days. Whilst I can only make it to the 1 am run, I have been staying up every night to watch the program which made her well-known to the Chinese community around the world. Cant help reminiscing the good old days!
# Legend of Condor Heroes 1,2 and 3eshl 2016-05-31 16:17
Legend of Condor Heroes 1,2 and 3 - clear version found below here
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and 2016Zheng Xu 2016-06-16 12:50
Recently, I have been going through some hard times in my life and I am unemployed. Therefore, I’ve got plenty of time staying at home and watching “The Legend of the Condor Heroes”. In early 90s, when I was in primary school, watching that TV series was one of the most fun thing to do during the two months school holiday…….. Anyway, I’d like to thank Rob for creating this website and sharing all the stories and photos. Honestly, after reading her stories, I feel really sad. I used to be an international student too. I went to a new country alone when I was 17. Her stories also bring back memories of the unforgettable times in my own high school and uni life……..Thanks again Rob for all your work and effort. Please keep this website alive.
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and 2016Rob R 2016-06-16 13:34
thank you for your compliment, as long as people visit my site I will keep it alive.
# miss youhank 2016-07-17 21:21
love your only leave your young and beautiful picture for's so lucky,we can't see you get old.but we miss you so much,hope you will be happy in heaven.we love you forever.
# 三十多年过去了changuzi 2016-07-29 03:14
# Rob, thank you for setting up this websiteKS Shum 2016-07-29 08:23
Hi Rob, thanks for setting up this website. I am sure Barbara's fans are still fond of her, despite it's been over 30 years since she left us - and I am no exception. Every time I visit this webpage it always gives me the feeling that as if she's still alive. I remain indebted to you. One thing I feel really sorry about is that despite I have been to the UK a few times, the trips were all business related and I was travelling in a group. Therefore I could not make it to Barbara's grave. However, I will definitely visit her grave someday (hopefully within the next 3 to 5 years). I was wondering whether there are any parking spaces available at the cemetery?
# RE: Rob, thank you for setting up this websiteRob R 2016-07-29 11:44
I hope you can make it one day, it is a nice graveyard. At the 2nde at entrance Newmarket Road (about 200 m futher down the road from the main entrance) there are about 10 parking spaces.
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and 2016Zhi 2016-08-02 19:46
Hi Rob, it's been a long time (probably over 5 years)since I last logged into your website.
Many more stories have been posted and I cant wait to read them all. I am happy to see my Chinese translation work for your first ten stories are still there.
Anyway, I want to say thank you for building up this nice hub for Barbara's fans and wish Barbara could read these stories as well.
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and 2016Rob R 2016-08-03 06:23
Hello Zhi, nice to hear from you again, I hope everything is fine and I am still grateful for all your translation work.
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and 2016Frank 2016-08-14 20:03
Thank you Rob.
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and 2016Kimberly 2016-08-18 04:45
Thanks for keeping this page updated. :)

Rest in peace, Barbara. :'(
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and 2016Cherry 2016-09-01 12:49
Lovely story, thanks Rob for sharing. We learnt from your stories too about relationships. I hope I can be brave when pursuing true love like Barbara did. I'm 31 years old now. I'm in US. I like a guy who now lives in Finland. But I know it will be so tough to get together. I did not even told him I liked him. I hope I can do something soon. Anyway wish a good day there.
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and 2016Rob R 2016-09-01 14:43
Hello Cherry, thank you for your wishes and good luck with your difficult path to seek love and happiness.
# True love storyJudy 2017-02-24 04:33
It is a very romantic love story. It is so sweet and a lot of happy memories. I enjoyed a lot. Thanks for sharing. When Barbara passed away, I was still young in my grade 5 primary school in Hong Kong. I still remember my classmates are sad about the news.
I can feel how Barbara felt. I have depression and got suicide thoughts at some moments I m too sick that feel so lonely. Everyday I remind myself to be strong and very eager to find true love throughout my life.
# Barbara's EnglishVinny 2017-03-13 19:30
Hi Rob,

How was Barbara's spoken English? Was it fluent and did she have an accent?

# RE: Guestbook 2015 and laterRob 2017-03-13 21:40
She spoke English fluently and she had a northen London accent.
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and laterHou 2017-05-07 06:01
One more Barbara's birthday :cry:
# We'll always miss youTerry ng 2017-05-10 18:00
Iam just finish to watch your drama,it's excellent,I won't forget it....R.I.P
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and laterMelissa from Brisbane Australia 2017-05-13 10:43
Hello Rob

Do you usually hear from the contacts @ Barbara's fan club on their plans for 14th May? Also, are you paying a visit to Cambridge any time soon?
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and laterRob 2017-05-13 11:06
I dont have any contact with the fan club as such, so I don't know about their activities.

I am going to Cambridge again at the end of this june.
# cause of suicideYanni 2017-05-19 07:52
BY is part of my childhood. I remember watching her TV series when I was around 10. Her death has always been very tragic to me. After reading your story with her and another fan's analysis of the interviews that she made in HK. I believe that the failing relationship with you was one of the reasons that triggered her death, but it wasn't the underlying issue. Her suicide is due to her upbringing, how she viewed the world, loneliness, failing relationships, and the last but not the least hopelessness (She didn't see that her life would/could get better than this). I also have experience living in the West, and part of my personalities are very similar to hers; very discreet about my personal life. In fact, the way she acted with the social media in HK was exactly like the way she was with her mother, didn't tell anything that might/would shock the public (like living with a bf or having sex before marriage etc). It would ruin her perfect idol image.
# cause of suicideYanni 2017-05-19 08:01
Sorry it is a long post. I haven't finished yet. I think that her suicide could have been avoided, because she DID reach out to other people (she called two people) before she died. She wanted to talk. They just didn't get there in time. However, I also think that it would happen again and probably succeed eventually, if she hadn't/wouldn't address the underlying issue. She just didn't love herself enough to keep living. My psychology teacher told me that suicidal thoughts are usually short lived (there is a window timing), if you happen to be there and help this person, they won't do it, but of course it will also happen again like I said if they don't seek help psychologically.
Thank you for sharing your story. Not only it helps her fans to understand the real her, it also help parents and future parents how to bring up their children; never too soft, but never too harsh either :)
# forever barbaraKenny 2017-06-17 10:57
i just found out this nice n most remembrance website abt barbara yung, very touching love story.

just curious to knw she die on 1 week after her birthday on 14th May, when her birthday was on 07th May.

My question is she not happy on her 1985 birthday celebration or no1 celebrated with her?

Why after 1 week??

Just too sad to accept her gone forever in this world.
# Remembering herNICKY ONG 2017-06-18 16:17
Just finished watch LOCH for the 4th time. Every single time i watch that drama, i would have that sentiment. I guess that would be the best way in remembering her and she would always be in our heart. God bless.
# 永远的黄蓉kzdhcster 2017-06-29 03:11
不知道怎么又来到这里,也许是心的灵犀,也许是上帝的旨意,懐念妳,永远的黄蓉,永远的 Barbara Yung!
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and laterDuckie 2017-10-04 06:57
I have been a fan of Yung Mei Ling for more than 30 years, and still am. I am amazed to see this website, with all the fine collection about Barbara's life, especially the part in england. Thanks for putting up this website !
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and laterDuckie 2017-10-04 07:05
I still have a collection of Barbara's pictures, posters and media articles. I have never loved another actress like i loved her again
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and laterRob 2017-10-04 09:28
Thank you for the compliment. I hope your are willing to share your collection one day.
# Why BY joined showbizJK 2017-12-09 09:08
Hi Bob,
It was said that, many of the unresolved questios have been answered after meeting with Barbara's family again. Would you share with us why Barbara joined HK showbiz despite her former seemingly lack of interest?
# RE: Why BY joined showbizRob 2017-12-11 11:44
She was persuaded to join the HK-pageant competition. In HK everybody liked her and gave her many compliments on how beautiful she was. She got invited to parties and went to places where only the rich and famous go. It was an high style life which no young woman can resist. Especially as her life in the UK was not very exciting, she had no lover and her job and social life was not very interesting. In the UK she was a nobody in HK they made her feel special.
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and laterJK 2017-12-12 04:02
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and laterfans 2018-06-20 13:14
Rob, I looked at story 10 again. You said that in order for Barbara to stay in the UK, he would not return to the Netherlands with his parents. Why did the second break up insist on returning to the Netherlands? I think you didn't care about her at the time. Abandoned her. I think you are too selfish and cruel to do so. You know that barbara so cherishes this feeling so fragile. She must cry for a long time after breaking up. How can you bear to abandon her. Your heart is really hard. Pursue new campus life. Abandon so much to love you so much for you. How can you get down your heart? Too painful.
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and laterzilian 2018-06-21 12:36
Quoting fans:
Rob, I looked at story 10 again. You said that in order for Barbara to stay in the UK, he would not return to the Netherlands with his parents. Why did the second break up insist on returning to the Netherlands? I think you didn't care about her at the time. Abandoned her. I think you are too selfish and cruel to do so. You know that barbara so cherishes this feeling so fragile. She must cry for a long time after breaking up. How can you bear to abandon her. Your heart is really hard. Pursue new campus life. Abandon so much to love you so much for you. How can you get down your heart? Too painful.

b arbara从此不再提起ROB.... 她想把ROB从她的记忆中彻底抹去~~~ROB现在所做的一切在我看来是可笑的,b arbara生前你不爱惜她现在假装来怀念她?可笑啊可爱~~
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and laterMindy 2018-08-14 16:06
Hi Rob. Thank you so much for sharing these beautiful sentimental memories of your life with Barbara. You have one amazing memory which I am envious of as I am an absent minded muddle headed wombat. What is your secret in encompassing such a vivid memory? Is it because the time you were with Barbara was special that makes the recollection easier to recalled? My nan and my mum are also a fan of Barbara. I came to like Barbara from watching her shows with my mum. Hope to hear further news on the development of your novel. Wishing you and your family well.
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and laterRob 2018-08-16 08:03
Hello Mindy, thank you for your compliments. You sound like my wife, she never remembers anything. Luckily I have a good memory of events that I experienced myself. And as my period with Barbara was very compassionate, that makes my memories of that time even stronger
# 懷念她Eric Chu 2018-09-02 05:45
新聞報導她離世時,我剛剛就讀F.5, 今天看到她70年代的相,我心中仍然痛! 還有一點非常特別的,是我發現我女兒的様子竟然有點像她,昨天去英國留學去了。
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and later321 2018-10-18 00:01
The most touching words are not I love you or be together, but instead, I'm here when I'm weak.

To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and later321 2018-10-27 07:46
看到一篇旧杂志文章。芭芭拉说:“他见到的最好的男朋友是香港的那个。这是无可质疑的。”因为那个男朋友,去英国看望他。圣诞节还给送去祝福。rob你们分手以后。你连一张圣诞卡片都没有寄给她。你把她忘了。即使你迫于某种原因分手。总不至于吝啬的一句圣诞节祝福卡片都没有。你太让她伤心了。你当时已经忘了她。I saw an old magazine article. Barbara said, "the best boyfriend he saw was the one in Hongkong. This is beyond question. ”Because that boyfriend went to see him in England. Christmas is also a blessing. Rob after you break up. You didn't send a Christmas card to her. You forgot her. Even if you break up for some reason. There's no Christmas pardon for Christmas. You made her sad. You had forgotten her.
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and later321 2018-10-27 10:38
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and later321 2018-10-27 10:38
The reason why Barbara left Hong Kong in early 1982, I think, was that she left Britain sadly because she didn't receive a greeting card at Christmas. Cut off all ties with you. You broke her. You have to admit that you forgot her at the time. You forgot him completely in five years of such intimacy. I'm right about that. Sending a Christmas card is not a way to get involved in other people's lives. I hope that when you write a book, you can honestly write your mind. Only when Barbara left the world did you wake up. Do you think she found happiness? Did you see it? Even if you break up, you should look after her until she really finds happiness. That's what a responsible man should do. You were not in love at that time. It was only when Barbara left the world that he woke you up. The price is too high.
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and laterRob 2018-10-27 13:10
You will be satisfied after reading my book. In there I will give an honest answer to your questions.
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and later321 2018-10-27 10:48
你现在的所作所为是个真正的男人,你当时的所作所为,太冷酷了.太无情了。芭芭拉是带着眼泪离开的这个世界。我们永远怀念她。What you're doing now is a real man. What you were doing at that time was too cold and cruel. Barbara left the world with tears. We will miss her forever.
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and later321 2018-10-27 14:22
Thank you, Rob. I'll know the answer in more than a year. I hope everything goes well and you'll get a satisfactory circulation. Let more people remember barbara. forever.
# Miss Barara一阁 2018-11-06 06:45
永远MISS Barbara,在天堂安好!
# Meeting Barbara, 1983 Miss ChinatownPeter W 2018-11-10 18:33
Dear Rob:
Thank you for setting up this website for all of Barbara's fans. You have really made us all very happy with all these memories! I found this website because one of my idols, Yammie Nam, passed away last Saturday. Like Barbara, she passed away in tragic circumstances. I have never felt so depressed since Barbara died. I was lucky enough to have met her in 1983 Miss Chinatown at the Hippodrome. I was doing a programme for my Chinese School and my sister presented flowers to a guest. My late father also met her as he worked for a Chinese Newspaper. Of course we didn't know at the time she will become our idol! When she passed away, I was devastated as I was doing my A levels at the time. I hope I can pay respect for Barbara in Cambridge one day. I live in London so definitely will go up there. My favourite part so far is when you talk about the cars you had as I am a petrol head. For £250 you can get a used car-those were the happy days! Very best wishes! Peter
# SorryPeter W 2018-11-10 18:37
I meant 1980 Miss Chinatown not 1983! Getting old...Sorry! Peter
# Miss Chinatown 1980 competitionPaul Lee 2018-11-11 00:27
Hi Rob and Peter. Very sad news re: Yammie Nam. Yes I remember that competition when Barbara came 2nd. I remember my parents saying that the winner is half Chinese, it's not fair, lol! But I thought she was pretty, who cares. But Barbara was good looking too. The year was definitely 1980 because the England played in the European Championship. The venue where the beauty contest took place was called Talk of the Town, latter became the Hippodrome where I used to dance there. Famous Hong Kong artists also went and performed there, Leslie Cheung, Anita Mui, Carina Lau, Maggie Taunt, Stephanie Lai, to name a few. Good luck with the book, Rob! Hope to see it in the shop soon.
# RE: Miss Chinatown 1980 competitionRob 2018-11-11 09:55
Hello Peter and Paul. How nice to read your memories. I had forgotten the place was called "Talk of the town", thanks for telling me. It was a high class place. When Barbara was practicing there for the contest in 1980 I remember seeing an announcement for the performance of Grace Jones. Unfortunately I found little information about the contest. I assume there were many pictures taken but I only saw the few Barbara's family showed me. Also I found only one newspaper article, in a Singapore newspaper. Paul, Barbara agreed with your parents, she found it not fair that someone who could not speak Chinese won the competition.
# ThanksPaul Lee 2018-11-11 12:34
Good afternoon Rob. Thanks for getting back to me. I see if I can find the 1980 Chinese Chamber of Commerce annual report which has the details the contest and photos.
# RE: ThanksRob 2018-11-11 13:24
Thanks Paul, that would be great, maybe it will also say something about Barbara's trip to Paris, which was the 2nd price of the contest.
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and later勇焱 2018-11-19 13:42
Thanks Rob,very moved
# 怀念,永远的蓉儿勇焱 2018-11-19 14:13
# Thank you RobZoe leung 2018-12-30 22:37
I want to thank you so much for sharing your life with Barbara. Only a true selfless person would do that.
# Memories of Barbara from your parents?Jessica 2019-03-19 21:53
This is the first time I visited this website and I was moved into tears by your love story. May I ask whether you have talked with your parents about Barbara at different stages of your love life? I understand you may not have something in written but if you can write about what they said that would be great.
# RE: Memories of Barbara from your parents?Rob 2019-03-21 08:22
No I didn't talk with my parents about my love life. Mainly because they were in Holland and I was in England. I didn't want them to get worried about my life.
# RE: Memories of Barbara from your parents?Jessica 2019-03-21 19:23
I can understand. Typical boys. But we appreciate your parents kept the photos. I added more comments on the page where you met Barbara's family again.

Just in case you didn't see it, I posted my questions here too.
Quoting Rob R:
Why she wanted to break up with me, her life in England after we broke up. The reason for her suicide attemps and much more. Basically I got the answers to the questions I had for many years.

These are my questions too after reading your story. Would you give brief answers to the above questions on this website or you will give answers in your book? Thanks again for sharing.
# RE: Memories of Barbara from your parents?Rob 2019-03-21 21:18
I will answer these questions in my book.
# Have you thought of staying in England if Barbara didn't break up with you the first time?Jessica 2019-03-21 21:28
Even though we can't change history but I can't stop wondering about what-ifs. From your story, you were surprised when Barbara decided to break up with you for the first time. At that time, you were willing to make efforts to stay together. You made all kinds of suggestions. You said that Barbara was the only reason you stayed in England at that time and your parents were o.k. to let you attend college in England. If you didn't break up for the first time, you would not have made arrangement to go back to Holland. Do you think you could have stayed in England for graduate school and possibly stayed in England to start a family with Barbara? Or you didn't think that far at that time? Or it was never in your plan to stay in England for your life. So unless Barbara moved to Holland with you, there was no way the relationship would work? Thanks!
# RE: Have you thought of staying in England if Barbara didn't break up with you the first time?Rob 2019-03-22 11:33
I was never going to stay in England for my life. The only way we could have continued our relation is if Barbara would have come to Holland with me.
# Happy Birthday BarbaraKS Shum 2019-05-07 03:23
Happy 60th birthday to Barbara!
Though 34 years have gone by, she's still always being missed. Forever young for Barbara, but ages have caught up on fans like us...
# RE: Guestbook 2015 and laterMelissa from Brisbane Australia 2019-05-15 07:16
Thinking of you on this 14th day of May, Barbara...
# MrSimon 2019-05-27 08:50
I was 15yrs old from HK living in the UK when I watch Legend of Condor. Had a major crush on her, her down to earth demeanor and very proud to learn she had a family in the UK and lived here. Even more prouder that my brother became friend with a relation of hers. Then it came crashing down upon news of her death. Its so tragic to have died so young with all the potential aheda of her. I did'nt handle it very well at that age and just shut myself away from any news about Barbara until today. They made a new Condor Hero drama that I started watching on YT and I couldnt get Barbara out of my mind. Now I know she is buried in Cambridge.

RIP Barb.
# 又一年一阁 2019-06-16 10:05
# MsLihua Ren 2019-07-24 04:38
Hi Rob,

Barbara's one of my favorite actress and I just could not believe it when she committed suiside when I was young.

I'm touched that you still care about her after so many years and that's why I want to say a few words to you.

I don't know which religon you believe, but according my religon-Buddhism, a person committed suiside would normally end up in hell. This is by no means curse to Barbara or other.

In China we pray for relatives who (normaly parents) died by redeeming them from hell to better places such as Paradise, or even better, Western Paradise.

I am thinking about whether you would like to do the same for her. She will appreciate for your help if you do release her from hell.

Please let me know if there is anything I can help.

Yours sincerely,
# RE: MsRob 2019-07-24 06:55
Hello Lihua,
I am not a religious person. But I can’t imagine that a God will put a kind, friendly, people animal and plant loving, unselfish and only want to do good person as Barbara in hell. Even if she broke religious protocol I am sure God would find a way to forgive her. Thank you for offering but I think Barbara is in heaven already.