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Hereby I have finished my stories. I have told the stories I wanted to tell and I have shown the pictures I wanted to show. Of course I have many more memories of Barbara but they are too private to share on this website.
I rather would have exchanged the stories and pictures just with Barbara herself. We probably would conclude that the decision to break up in 1981 was a wise decision. But now, knowing more about Barbara's life after 1981, I am not so sure anymore.
It was nice going back thirty years, back to those intense and often happy years of my life. I also enjoyed the many contacts I had with the fans, either by the guestbook or by mail. These people made me much wiser.
I had many discussions. Some people were angry about what I did, others encouraged me to continue writing. Of course were there discussions about Barbara's suicide and about the role of Kent in her life. Also have I been told about a lot of other interesting topics like life in Hong Kong, the acting business, discrimination, Asian religion, the life of first and second generation immigrants, I even had my face read (she was 80% right ) and one fan gave birth to twins during our period that we mailed.
Some people recognized parts of their own life in my stories. They told me about their very personal life. With their permission I am publishing these stories on this website. These stories will give a better impression of what Barbara's life was like in England. The type of pressure she had to deal with and what kind of decisions she had to make. I hope that others who are in the same situation or had similar experiences can learn or be comforted by these stories.
I have been told about Barbara's life in Hong Kong. Her acting career, her private life and her suicide attempts. It was a difficult story for me to understand. A girl I knew so well was portrayed on the internet as person I didn't recognize any more. People have been very helpful in finding the answers to the questions I had. Nearly all my questions have been answered except one.
On the night that Barbara died, the last words she wrote were:
'Darling, I love you'
Why did she write these words in English?
Thank you for visiting this website,
Rob
最后一个问题
到此我的故事结束了。我讲完了我想讲的故事,展示了我想展示的照片。当然我还有许多Barbara的记忆,作为更私人的回忆,我就不在这网站上分享了。
能够回望30年前那些热烈的,经常是幸福的日子,我感到很开心。我也很喜欢和影迷们通过留言板和邮件沟通。这些人们令我能够更智慧。
我们做了许多讨论。有人对我的所为很生气,也有人鼓励我继续写作。当然也有讨论Barbara的自杀以及Kent在她人生中的所承担的角色。我也了解了许多其它有趣的话题,比如香港的生活,娱乐圈,歧视,亚洲宗教,第一代和第二代移民生活。甚至还有人替我看了面相 (80%说对了) 。在我和一个影迷的通信期间,她告诉我她的双胞胎出生了。
也有些人在我的故事里看到他们自己的经历,也告诉我他们自己的故事。经他们同意后我也把这些故事放在网上了。这些故事可以折射出Barbara在英国时的生活,她所面对的压力,以及她必须做的决定。我希望那些面临同样情况,或是有过同样经历的人们可以从这些故事中有所悟,或是能得到些慰籍。
我听说了Barbara在香港的生活,她的演艺生涯,她的个人生活以及她的几次自杀尝试。对我而言这个故事很难理解。那个我如此了解的女孩,在网上被描述成一个我不再认识的人。人们帮助我找到我的问题的答案。几乎我所有的问题都得到了回答,但是还有一个问题无人能回答我:
在Barbara死去的那一晚,她最后写下的文字:
"Darling, I love you"
她为什么用英文写了这句话呢?
谢谢你们来这个网站。
Rob.
(thanks to Natalie for the translation)
Comments
I really hope you can watch the TV series she starred in, which may be different from what you imagine. I know there may not be an English version, but you can first read the novel "The Legend of the Condor Heroes" written by Jin Yong (with an English version), so that you can understand the story better. I have only watched her one TV drama so far, and I don't want to continue watching it now because she only has a dozen or so. I don't want to lose it after watching it. I want to watch it slowly in my future life, and I hope you can understand the feeling behind it! I hope you can publish your memoirs about Weng Meiling as soon as possible, after all, perhaps only you know that story! I wrote in a hurry today because I still have to prepare for the Chinese college entrance examination, but I still have many memories with Weng Meiling (which sounds strange, but is actually about my parents' description and my own opinion). I hope to contact you again in the future!
Thank you for reading this far! Wishing you a happy life! Goodbye!(Weng Meiling=Barbara Yung
She might told him that to come her hou by 12 midnight or else he wont see her by the next morning. He dont believe that she will kill herself.
Does Kent know she had suicide attempt? If he know, he is damn bastard.
She love Kent a lot base on Stephen account. He wanted her to be his gf but she dont want. She just want Kent. She was with Stephen just want to make kent jealous.
Kent is just too handsome and charismatic. All girls like him during his prime. He can be good husband if he decide to marry.
Yung wanted to marry but Kent wasnt interested as e is young and he wanted to play around. During her generation, once woman wanted to marry to her bf badly which mean they have intimacy together.
In summary, it is just a poor pair up that lead her into misery. Kent is just a playboy. Yung is more to a tradition woman who wanted to marry down and want stable family and kids.
Nothing last forever but love and memories will always be in our heart.
这里有翁美玲1983年在欧洲演出的照片和叙述
那时她没有联络Rob.
she had her new life and put the past into history
怎么可能是给ROB的?写在日历台上除了当时汤有翁家里的钥匙外,没有别人了,想给ROB直接打电话给他不就行了,写在日历台上ROB一辈子都不可能看到,你别一厢情愿了。你不会就是那个森焱吧?
你错了,对汤没必要用英语。想说给rob又怕人知道,只能暗语,rob能懂。读完故事我们也能懂。You're wrong. There's no need to use English for soup. Barbara wanted to tell Rob that she was afraid of being known. She could only speak in secret. Rob could understand. After reading the story, we can understand it.
The importance is that Rob, you still love her. You Still remember her. And We still love her. We still Remember her.
We are old. But she is always 26 years in our heart.
thanks for your sharing.
and thanks for her beautiful sentence left in the world.
From WIKI
这个是错误的,当晚阿翁没有打过国际电话
http://www.epochtimes.com/b5/1/7/24/n112486.htm
这位荷兰朋友,你其实也可以问下你现在的妻子,就是你的女友,是否还会经常想起自己和初恋或她的前男友,如果是的话,那我只能为你的爱情默哀三分钟了。
英语不好,但我明白rob肯定能知道我在说什么,只要他想知道。
PS,能把回复修改的简单些吗?居然还有拼图游戏,
I still remember the day when I first watched the Legend of Condor Heroes at age of 5, I had a huge crush and was instantly a fan of her. It was very hard for me to find out when she committed suicide. I had to force myself not to think of her or read, watch anything related to her, thus I could move on. Now I'm in my 30s and stumbled onto your site and I'm pleasantly surprised to learn about her of her early life. This brings back memories... Memories of the days sitting by the TV impatiently waiting for the her show to start...Memories of the days that I was sad and empty when the show's over....Memories of the days that I wanted to see more of her and the days talking with friends about her over and over.
Now I realized that she's always there and never left no matter how much I've tried. I will always remember her for being a part of my life.
Thanks,
Have a cheerful day.
Everyone has a story.
SNITA
What was Barbara actually to you?
She used to be a girl I was very much in love with and at that time I was prepared to offer anything to be with her.
Now, she is just a happy memory.
May i ask you a question: What does Barbara actually mean to you? Thanks.
"Darling, I love you"
她为什么用英文写了这句话呢?
我也來回答這個問題吧,翁美玲是寫給Rob你的。翁美玲跟湯鎮業大吵一架然後自殺,用英文留下的遺言(如果這遺言是真的),不可能是對湯鎮業說的。一個男人把女人氣得悲痛欲絕,到了死亡境地,臨死時會對那男人說 I love you,你相信嗎?網上那篇“翁美玲自殺時的心境和真實關况”分析得十分到位,她生命中最愛的是Rob,至死不忘。在她生命中最美好的時刻,Rob帶給她的體驗太深刻了。翁美玲對湯鎮業始終愛不起來,只是有點感激而已。湯鎮業對翁美玲也不是真愛。雙方對對方都不滿,貌合神離。命運令兩人糾纏在一起,搞得大家都身心破碎,黯然神傷。翁美玲外表爭強好勝,心靈卻脆弱得可怕,湯鎮業哪有一絲一毫了解她?Rob了解翁美玲,也曾經愛過她,但這人具“大智大慧”,與翁美玲分手後,很快把她“灑脫”地忘記了,開始了自己的生活,遇上另一段真愛,生了孩子,幸福美滿。老實說,Rob對翁美玲的死有不可推卸的責任。兩人分手後,明知翁美玲的生命脆弱如花,沒有盡到一絲一毫的保護責任,最終在狂風暴雨中香消玉殞。翁美玲臨死前想什麽呢,如果時光可以倒流,她應該還是想和Rob在一起,長相厮守。因為這個願望永遠無法達成了,悲痛之下,義無反顧,親手結束了自己的生命。不應該怪Rob什麽,但他應該買塊豆腐一頭撞死。男女相愛,轟轟烈烈,欲仙欲死,因為年輕,所以愛得深沉浪漫,驚天地泣鬼神,有衝突時卻不能用理智去解決,很容易釀成悲劇。Rob和翁美玲,如果當時Rob年長八至十歲,兩人的命運恐怕會完全不同。同樣,如果給翁美玲多幾年生命,她一定能處理好和湯鎮業的關係,不至於衝擊自殺。原諒我寫下這段只有猜測沒有實據的說話。翁美玲去世30年了,她依然活在我心中,永不褪色。每天我還在光影中尋找真實的翁美玲,我知道永遠找不到的。她演的黃蓉,像從書中走出來,不夠漂亮,但靈氣逼人,這是一個美好的夢。她的歌聲也很好聽,像未開發的始女地。無論何時何地,聽到射鵰的音樂,想到這個薄命如斯的女子,忍不住悲從中來,淚如泉涌。如果我有能力,好想寫一部《劍橋之戀》,但這部小說作者最佳人選是Rob。
Have you ever think of writing a letter to Tong to talk about your question?
I think it is for Kent Tong.
Really thanks for your effort on this website! There is a newspaper mentioned about Barbara today as today is the 30th years Barbara left us. I never know about this website before. It really helps me to know more about Barbara whom we miss her so much!
I am going to visit England this summer, I hope I can go to visit those places you have mentioned... really sweet memories not only for you... but also for Barbara's fan.
I am so happy that you have a happy family and enjoy your life so much. Wishing you, your wife and your daughters have a joyful life.
I believe you still love and miss Barbara. To create and run a website like this takes a lot of time and effort. Have you heard of a song called 'Time in a bottle' by Jim Croce. I think the lyrics can probably describe your feelings to Barbara over the years.
You are very lucky to have a box full of the bittersweet memories with Barbara. Don't let your love to her grow old!
Take care and all the best!
Bart
I'm also not sure if she will not commit suicide once she end up with you, her emotions and characteristics, ...might make her on the edge of death. I wish her next life will be full of happiness.
you=all people whom she had loved...her mom, ken, her friends, maybe even you included.
ps: love your garden, love the smiles of your children, love the farm animals....
i live in nyc, so i cannot have the living situation you have... the backyard, the farm, the animals, the children running in the backyard...appreciate the life you have now, appreciate the partner you have, appreciate the life you have now.... the present. thank you for sharing all these months:)
-jala
Thanks for your sharing. Time passed, we all changed, but the love still at there. It's a little like the rabbit hole, do you think so? 沧海桑田-For Barbara Yung
Barbara was lucky to have your love which gave her short life contents. I can understand how much misunderstanding she could get from a Chinese society in hk after she had spent so many years in England though Suicide was a bad choice.
1 - u did not take the engagement seriously. u 2 were engaged but u had a party on attitude and were not sad or despondent. if u were truly in love with her, every waking moment u should be feeling sadness not seeing her. Barbara took it seriously and which was why she was always sad u weren't there. I think in her mind, she told herself she waited 2 years and she couldn't wait anymore.
2 - To your relief, I don't think she was talking about her when she wrote the note. Like you said, she would love with 110% of her heart to her love. It would be difficult for someone like that to love both her current bf and her ex-bf. I think Barbara probably struggled for a long time with her feelings for u, but when she finally made up her mind, she would end it all and never look back - that's why she came to HK - too many bad memories and too many ghosts in UK.
My humble analysis....
Does anyone know what happened to Barbara's mother and her stepfather, and uncle? Did they ever have children?
I guess may be they thought fame destroyed everything they loved so they decided to stay away from the public?
Sharing such a beautiful story
She'll be fine in heaven.
:lol:
i think "darling, i love u"means she is speaking to u. she is really a nice and charming girl.so miss her !when i have free time ,i will come to this wedbsite,maybe when i have much more free time,i will ask my children to creat a facebook with me .
really thank u .nowdays i often remember her.she is really a superstar!
regards for u and ur family.
Thank you for sharing all your warm and sad love story with us ,it make us re-understand Barbara who we like more .She have meet Mr.right ,but unfortunately, she didn't meet them at right time.Hope she can find peace and perfectness in heaven.
PS:Wonder what your mother replied to Barbara on how they live on if she plan to move to Holland and live with you .
在万能的天涯论坛上看到有关美玲荷兰男友为她建纪念站的链接后,进来一口气读完了她男友写的所有的流水帐文章,透过这些真实的照和朴实无华的文字,拼凑与想象着属于他们的美丽与忧愁并存的爱情中的点滴画面,唏嘘不已,虽说性格决定命运,但在对的时间遇到对的人,结局是不是可能完全会不一样呢?愿美玲安息,在天堂里找到属于她的完美。
PS.想知道当年他的荷兰妈妈是如何回答美玲请求负担她和妈妈生活的问题。
This is one of the greatest love stories I've ever read about.
Yours and Barbara's love story should be a lesson to all parents who forbid their children from loving others due to cultural and racial difference, especially first and second generation immigrants. Her life so mirrors my family's journey into foreign lands that it hit me quite personally.
You are probably one of the luckiest man on earth and you should understand that you have an amazing love story with, now it can be said, a truly GOOD chinese girl, according to both Eastern and Western standards. Her unwilling to leave her mother is a testament to her filial piety, one of the most important character of a person of Chinese heritage.
http://blog.yahoo.com/_QUH66P6CSB2VOOYELNQHYIS4DM/articles/601731
I am from Barbara's era. I immigrated to the USA about the same time Barbara left HK. I have never been back but Barbara's on screen legacy was the best memory of HK. You and I are about the same age and I love the music you chose for the YouTube clips you posted. I view it daily. Thank you for sharing your stories with all of us!
David
if you cant view the video from that link,you may try to find it on youtube.
http://www.barbarayung.net/report/report029.htm
http://www.tudou.com/programs/view/NjIs89PlFhg/
starting at 11:13, ending at 13:42, Ms Lee talked about Barbara.
She said one man Barbara tried to call is Kent,but his phone was turned off; another man (Ms Lee didn't mentioned his name,but should be Stephen Chau/邹世龍 accord to other report ) Barbara called and told him she was unhappy, the man rushed into her residence, knocked the door, but no reponse,then he left.if he called police immediately, Barbara might be saved once more.
https://www.scmp.com/magazines/post-magazine/short-reads/article/2093884/when-hong-kong-tv-actress-barbara-yung-died-may
Being emigrant is like very hard to survive. I'm telling you this because I am first generation in the united states (leaving my parents and family back home) and sometimes it feels so hard to survive. But you gave such a good company to Barbara that I really appreciate and thankful to you.
Rob, keep in touch and good luck for everything.
Anyway, regards to her last words written. Did she ever call you darling? In Michael's interview, I found out that she called Kent, "son" in Cantonese so I don't know if that translates to "darling" in English as I didn't grow up/live in HK and am not very fluent in the language. But, I did a google translate on "darling" and one of the Chinese translations was "baby".
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rYlsNQIGgl0&feature=relmfu
I know about the interview, someone send me a translation. I will publish it on this website when I have more time. Barbara did call me darling but she might have used this for other (boy)friends aswell.
thank you for barbara memorial in details. God bless your family and may you cherish your wife and children. To us barbara will live forever in our memories.
She will be sadly missed forever.
I know Barbara more and even love her more.
Happy New Year 2012 to everyone
I had watched LOCH when I was about 15. Barbara was the first à¸à¸¶à¹‰à¸‡à¸¢à¹‰à¸‡ I ever know and most impressive until today. I found your website by searching Barbara's name. I have been reading the story for months. After done that, I had learnt some things. There's no if clause question about her past anymore. People had the past that we couldn't fix it but move on.Also it doesn't matter who is the guy she mentioned to in "darling, I love you". The matter is who really loves her. I believe you don't forget those times and memories between you and her. Likewise, other people for example, KT and other friends have their own memories with her too. As a mother, I learn that I have to talk and understand what my children want, not what I want them to be and so demanding. It might end up with I never know my own kids or worse. Anyway I'm glad for you that you have a happy family. Barbara will remain in our heart forever.
I think deep down, BOTH of you still love each other dearly. U all were meant to be "love birds" but not "husband/wife". This is fate. SAD STORY but beautiful & special.
Thank you very much for your great stories!
You wish Barbara refer you, I think she was just very lonely being by herself in HK. She needed someone to Love about her.
You should really back to reality, take good care of your family. It is not fair to your spouse, if you keep thinking about Barbara.
Firstly, She usually committed suicide by swallowing the pills, not gas.
Secondly, She tried to get out to the door, but it was too late.
Gas leaking is a very common accident. it's important to check it every 2 years by a licenced plumber.
it's sad to lose her though.. but she's an ageless legend.
Congratulation on your twins Rob..
There was a radio interview in March 1985 and Barbara was optimistic about her future. Why would someone that has this thinking just made a silly move.
Once again, IT MIGHT NOT BE ABOUT her broken relationship with Kent Tong. She had said in the radio interview THEY ARE GOOD FRIENDS WHO CARED FOR EACH OTHER. The media and the TV station just make it as through they are a pair and Barbara HATED the way that was being done. :sigh:
As LULU in previous message asked "Why does BARBARA commit suicide in Hongkong? Rob. Since u know Barbara for about 5 yrs and with all the information that you collected from Barbara's fans, did you come up with theory of the suicide?
>> Barbara did not go to HOLLAND with you because of her mom. Why then she commit suicide and left her mom high & dry to cope on her own? (I don't think her mom is a great mom - but I think Barbara's actions are ironic.)
First of all thank you for these stories of Barbara. The pieces of the puzzles are almost completed.
Secondly, thank you for posting this lovely black and white pic of Barbara which you shared with us on You Tube.
At last you left us a nice question.Actually I never regard it as a question before knowing your stories.But now I do think it really means something.
Only Barbara knew the answer, but she passed away. So there could be many answers to it for people to guess, But I prefer to choose the one in your heart.
Rob, Thank you.