We went to my grandmother's house. A lot of my aunts, uncles en little nephews came to see us. For me it was the first time back in the Netherlands for many years and of course the family wanted to see this Chinese girlfriend from the big nephew from abroad. Barbara was amazed by the size of aunties, they were very big. And when they sat next to each other on the couch it was fun to see how they struggled when one of them tried to get up.

My grandmother lived alone and enjoyed our company. She cared for us, but left us alone. She told us that when she was young she would have liked to have done the same as what we were doing.

For us it was a perfect time. Being together 24 hours a day, being free from any interference from others.

During the day we travelled around in Holland, visiting sites, taking pictures of things we thought that could be part of a culture excursion and making sure that I wasn't on them. It was one of these holidays that things never went as we planned. When we went to Amsterdam, we took a trolley the wrong way. We only noticed this when we reached the end of the line, at a suburb. We took a few pictures from some sculptures in a local park and went home again. We never saw the old city of Amsterdam.

Another day we couldn't get the door open when the train was at the train station. We missed the place we wanted to go. Another time we stepped out at the wrong bus stop and had to walk for miles. We wanted to go to craft museum which looked interesting to us. It took us half a day to get there. Only they exposed things the local hand craft society had made like hand knitted table cloths and things like that. Not the art we had in mind.

We didn't care if things went wrong. It made our holiday more exciting.

Every evening we went to the same local pub sitting in the same quiet corner. There Barbara wrote a dairy she made especially for this holiday. Ironically is that Barbara always did the writing about our relation in her dairies and now I am doing the writing about our life together.

1979 with grandma

Barbara and my grandma 









(translated by Zhi)



# So SweetGuest 2010-06-28 17:07
I just love the photos and stories. I wonder what ever happened to her diary. I am sure her mother still kept it.
# RE: So SweetGuest 2010-06-28 20:46
The dairy she wrote during this holidays I kept. But sadly it got thrown away a few years ago when my parents cleaned up the attic.
# RE: RE: So SweetGuest 2010-06-28 21:23
Thrown away... I am heart broken... :cry:
# RE: RE: So SweetGuest 2010-07-10 17:12
Quoting Rob:
The dairy she wrote during this holidays I kept. But sadly it got thrown away a few years ago when my parents cleaned up the attic.

It's a pity your parents had thrown away. :cry:
# RE: The holidayGuest 2010-09-13 20:45
Strict Chinese parents were a pain but in retrospect also created adventures like this one that would otherwise be taken for granted. I had to do similar things to be with my boyfriends even in college in the late 1990's. My parents still never know about my spring breaks.
# Re: the holidayMelanie from USA 2011-09-23 02:42
Armsterdam is a wonderful city. I had 3- days visit to the city with a German girl and a Uzibekstan girl when I was in Cologne. It was very impressived. We took the cruise around the city and see all those boats, bikes and wood shoes.
Unfornately, Barbara missed it. She would love to see all kinds of museums and arts.
If your mother didn't threw away the dairy, i believe it can be sold a very high price if the dairy is put on the auction market. Then it will become a big news on many newpapers. What a pity.
# Don't understandAlfonso 2011-12-30 17:10
Why do money mean so much? No money can buy the experience of Barbara & Rob. We should be thankful to have the opportunity to learn about their relationship. The diary may be thrown away but the memory stays forever.
# RE: Don't understandeva 2021-07-25 10:29
# RE: 09. The holiday 假期 (1977)Roger S 2019-04-18 09:04
Hi Rob,

I'd suggest the sentence with "We didn't care that it all when things went wrong" would need some improvement?
# RE: 09. The holiday 假期 (1977)Rob 2019-04-19 14:37
Good suggestion, I altered it. Thanks

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