I have a very good and sometimes detailed memory for things that happened to me. For me it is just like watching a movie in my head. Unfortunately I am not a talented writer and it is therefore very difficult for me to translate these images in my head into words.

As an example how detailed I sometimes can remember things, I could have written the story "Formally introduced" in a different way. Taking the moment I am helping in the fish and chip shop. I could have written.

I am frying the chips. Barbara is standing next to me taking the orders from the customers. It is busy, at least five customers are waiting. Barbara looks at the chips and says to me 'you have to take them out now'. I start collecting the chips with some kind of large spoon with small holes in it. I am trying to collect the chips in the spoon, I only can collect a half spoon full. Barbara says 'you're to slow that way they burn'. She takes the spoon from my hands and starts removing the chips herself. While she is doing this she says 'look you have to swirl it this way then you can collect more chips and it goes faster'. With the spoon she describes an eight in the cooking fat, taking most of chips out in one movement. She gives the spoon back to me and says 'do it that way next time or else they burn, you have to work faster'.

If I was going to write the stories this way I never finish writing and the stories will probably be very boring.

I don't think I have a special talent for remembering things. Someone told me that the first love always brings back the most vivid memories. Apparently for me that even counts after thirty years. But then again maybe I just a silly romantic person and other people just forget these things. Also the relation was not a normal teenage romance as the stories will tell. One thing was certain with Barbara "there was never a dull moment".

Rob,你怎么能记得住这么多事情?

我对于自己经历的事情有着很好,有时候很详细的记忆。对我来讲,回忆仿佛是在脑子里面看电影。 因此对我来说困难的倒是如何把头脑中的影像转化成文字。

我可以个举个例子来说明我有时能记得事情的细节。我可以把"正式介绍"这篇故事用不同的方式写出来。就以我在炸鱼薯条店里帮忙的那段,我可以写成:
我在炸薯条,Barbara站在我边上接待客户点单。店里很忙,至少有5个客人在排队等待。Barbara看了看薯条对我说,"你得把它们捞出来了。"我开始用一个带漏洞的大勺子捞薯条出锅。我极力要把所有的薯条都捞到勺子里,但是我只能捞到一半。Barbara说, "你太慢了,要焦了。"她从我手里拿过勺子,自己去捞薯条。她一边做一边说, "看,你得转着圈捞,这样可以多捞点也快点。"她在热油里划了个8字,一下子几乎所有的薯条都捞起来了。她把勺子还给我,说,"下回就这么做,否则会焦掉的,你动作要快点。"

如果我这么写得话,我 永远也写不完了,可能故事也会很没意思。
我不认为我有特殊的记忆能力。有人告诉我初恋总是能给人留下栩栩如生的回忆。 这种理论对于30年后的我仍然成立。可能我是个比较傻比较浪漫的人吧,而更多人只是忘记了这些事了。

另外,从我的故事中也能看出来我们的关系并不是普通的少年之恋。有一件事是可以肯定的,和Barbara在一起的每一刻都是精彩的。

Thanks to Natalie for the translation

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# RE: 12. Rob, how come you remember so much? Rob,你怎么能记得住这么多事情?APPLE 2013-06-03 14:33
你这种又“傻”又浪漫的男人在中国男人中是“稀缺品种”,我以前也遇到过一个类似rob的男人,但当时我年少没珍惜他,错过就不在有,随后结识的都是玩弄女人的坏男人,直到我27岁才遇到我的爱人,我紧紧的抓住这次恋爱,迫不及待的催他跟我结婚。ROB对barbara的感情是真切深厚的!ROB是一个重感情又细腻的人,每次当我看到你和barbara的照片总是感动得哭起来。
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# RE: 12. Rob, how come you remember so much? Rob,你怎么能记得住这么多事情?Joyce 2014-12-01 07:14
this memory is so real and sweet.this scene is even real as if barbara was still alive and young. .thanks for your so many memories .
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# 你怎么能记得住这么多事 情?NGUYEN THI THU HONG 2015-01-08 12:44
Dear Rod
This website is a great book and the best you had. love story of you and Barbara make the reader has a feel sweet and broken in heart a little, I noticed that the life's Barbara sad more than fun, but anyway, she totally deserved receive loved and admired.

You do very well, thank you so much.
wish yours family happy, healthy ....

Please forgive my English is not good .
Hong
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# RE: 12. Rob, how come you remember so much? Rob,你怎么能记得住这么多事情?love 2018-12-16 20:34
good memory.
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# some questionsFrank Chan 2019-07-19 05:25
Hi, Rob m, do you have the videoes that Barbara performed in Europe( London, Paris, Netherlands, Belgium, and so on),I want to wach, but I don't have
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# RE: some questionsRob 2019-07-19 21:14
I have been looking for information about these performances but found little, only a few pictures of the London show. No information about the shows in the other countries. Not even pictures or a newspaper article.
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# replyFrank Chan 2019-07-20 09:28
What a pity,by the way,Rob,do you have WeChat,I think we can add the WeChat number each other,so that we can become friebds.My WeChat number is2314041255,thank you.
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# RE: replyRob 2019-07-21 08:15
Hello Frank, you can chat with me by Facebook messenger
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# replyFrank Chan 2019-07-21 09:18
Hi, Rob,I'm sorry to say that I am very unlucky now, because I live in China now. As you know, China is an Authoritarian Country, It don't have freedom of speech, so, it can't use Facebook until nowadays.So, I can't communicate with you on Facebook, what a pity.
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# RE: replymcf 2019-07-21 14:05
Quoting Frank Chan:
Hi, Rob,I'm sorry to say that I am very unlucky now, because I live in China now. As you know, China is an Authoritarian Country, It don't have freedom of speech, so, it can't use Facebook until nowadays.So, I can't communicate with you on Facebook, what a pity.
---It's time to get a vpn.
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# RE: replyRob 2019-07-21 20:27
You can mail me on my hotmail account.
rmmmm1959@hotmail.com
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# replyFrank Chan 2019-07-21 23:41
Are you Rob? Is it your email address?
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# reprFrank Chan 2019-07-21 23:38
Ok, Ok


All right
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# requestFrank Chan 2019-07-24 16:17
Hi, Rob, why you don't reply me?I've watied here for a long time. Don't you know?
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# RE: requestRob 2019-07-25 08:10
Hello Frank, I must have missed something, what was your question?
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# replyFrank Chan 2019-07-25 08:33
Hello, Rob.I want to know that Rmmmm1959@Hotmail.com is your email address? Do you often use it? I want to know that if I can communicate with you by this email. I also want to know that whether you can receive my email in this email.
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# RE: replyRob 2019-07-25 09:24
Yes that is my email. I get mails from Barbara fans every day, so I use it very often
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