Subject: Di's Memories of Barbara
Date: Sat, 12 Feb 2011 21:04:56 +0000
Those really were special days for us all. I remember Barbara being a very sweet, quiet person who Rob treated with so much gentleness and respect. She was probably overwhelmed with all the noise and laughter going on in our house (Steve's and mine in Westfield Road, Gt Shelford).
We used to invite friends back to the house on Sunday and cook an English roast dinner (roasted chicken, roasted potatoes, Yorkshire puddings, and lots of vegetables and gravy/sauce). It didn't seem to matter how many people were there â€" we still managed to feed everyone. We would then spend all afternoon playing board games or cards, and in the evening we would fill pitta breads with the rest of the chicken and some cheese to feed us all again.
Barbara together with you and with my brother Nick just after sunday dinner
Sundays Barbara didn't have to work at the chip shop so this was a day that she and Rob could come to Shelford to spend time together. Before Yolande and Chris came to live with us, Rob and Barbara had their own room which meant they could spend precious time on their own.
I remember before we moved to Shelford, Steve and I used to live in Guest Road (near to the college where we all went) and Steve and I would collect Rob (who didn't have a car) on a Friday evening (Barbara would have been working) and we would go to a supermarket called the Beehive Centre and shop for our weekly groceries. We would then go back to Rob's flat in Bridgeacre House and play cards or Steve and Rob would play Chess. Steve and I would take advantage of Rob's bathroom as ours in Guest Road was really horrible and cold!
I can't remember how Steve and I found out that Barbara had tried to commit suicide but we went to see her in the hospital and the only thing I remember was how small she looked against the big white sheets of the hospital bed. Rob and Barbara tried so hard to stay together but it must have been so difficult for them with all the outside pressures they had and I am very glad that they had our house to come to. Barbara was always very welcome in our home.
I was really shocked to discover that Barbara had died in Hong Kong. Steve and I had separated by then and I was at the Cambridge Cemetery attending the funeral of a relative. I just happened to see Barbara's gravestone, with a beautiful ceramic picture of her on it so I had no doubt it was her. I wasn't sure if Rob would have heard about it so I wrote to him in Holland to tell him. I think Rob says I told him I saw news of her death in the local newspaper but I can't remember that. My memory seems to be very bad!
I knew that Barbara had become an actress but I had no idea what a huge following she had and still has today! It is amazing how many lives she has touched in what was a very short life.
In January 2011 Rob, his brother Fred, Yolande, Chris (also from Holland), Steve, my brother Nick and Sue all came to see me. We had not all been together for over 30 years and it was so great to see each other again. We raised a glass in honour of Barbara, because without her we would never have all got together again after so many years.
A toast to Barbara!
(In the garden at our house at Westfield Road in Shelford with the dogs Jamie and Tanya)
那些日子对我们每个人而言都是非常特别的时光。我记忆中的Barbara甜甜的，很文静，Rob对她总是很温柔很尊重。在我们家的时候，她可能被吵嚷声和大笑声淹没了。（Steve和我在圣瑟费尔德 (Gt Shelford) Westfield路，合住的房子）
2011年1月，Rob, 他的哥哥Fred, Yolande, Chris (也是来自荷兰)，Steve,我的哥哥Nick和Sue一起来看我。我们有30年没有见面了，能够再次重逢太好了。我们为了Barbara举杯，因为没有她的缘故，我们不会在这么多年后再次相聚。
(thanks to Natalie for the translation)